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AN APPROACH TO THE YOUTH OF PAKISTAN
Do You Have A Life Plan?
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Topics:
1. A Life Plan
2. Believe yourself
3. Your Dreams Comes true
4. Important To Have Goals
5. Attitude To Success
6. Beat Negative Thinking
7. Inspiration Your Strategy
8. Rid of Fear
9. Handle Your Problems
10. Failure Leads to Success
11. Show Encouragement
12. Mediocre Habits
13. Change is as Good
14. Dealing With An Angry
15. Forgiving Others
16. Give A Smile-Get A Smile
17. Criticisms in Our Life
18. Love Is The Answer
19. Planing For Change

1. Do You Have A Life Plan
During the course of our daily lives we make plans. We make plans for dinner, for trips to the grocery store, and for cleaning our house. We also make long-term plans for our education, our finances, our businesses, and our vacations. However despite all the planning that we do very few of us actually make a life plan and this is a critical oversight, as a life plan would encompass all those areas as well as our self-development, personal relationships and happiness.

We all have the capacity for happiness and success in every area of our lives including our personal development, our relationships, and our professional lives but happiness and success do not just happen. We must actively seek them out and set in motion plans and actions that will make them not only possible but also probable.

That is why you need a life plan, but actually creating one takes time and thought — something so many of us have little to spare. However don’t begrudge the time you could spend on a life plan because in the end that time is a very good investment that will help you save time and stress once you have your life plan fully developed. And isn’t anything that can help you achieving happiness and success a worthwhile investment of your time and energy?

Where Are You Now

Before you can begin crafting your life plan you must evaluate your current status. Reflect on the realities of your life including your commitments, finances, and dreams. What about your life makes you happy and what makes you unhappy?

Where are you now in terms of work, recreation, relationships, finances, and anything else you consider important? For example, I consider it important that my life contributes to the greater good and I have friends who consider the long-term impact of their life is an important measure.

Rate each of these areas with a letter grade with “A” of course being the highest score for the best possible life. Then calculate your overall life grade. Obviously if you have a 4.0 then your life is on track, but anything less means there are some areas you will need to work on.

It is important to identify the areas of your life that you consider successful or at least on track to success as well as the areas that you would like to improve.

Let Your Dreams Out

A big part of creating your life plan is letting yourself dream of what your ideal life would include in all the key areas you identified above (career, relationships, etc.).

Don’t worry about realities or impossibilities. Just give your heart and mind free reign to picture everything you wish your life could be in terms of relationships and family; profession and career; finances and retirement; and how you’d like to spend your time (travel, hobbies, etc.).

If money and other considerations were not a factor what would you do with your time and your life? What gets you really excited? What have you always wanted? What do you love to do (professionally or personally)?

Step Back Into Reality

Note the abilities, experience and strengths you already possess that can help you live your ideal life.

Make a list of the accomplishments you are most proud of in your professional and personal life. Can any of these help you achieve your idea life?

Evaluate your work style and habits. Do you work better alone, in a group, or as a manager? What time of day is your peak performance? How many hours a day or week are you capable of working at a high level of performance?

Now Make Your Plan

Once you have created a vision of your dream life and evaluated your strengths and weaknesses then you are better able to create a plan that will help you achieve your ideal life.

Perhaps your dream is to own your business but currently you don’t have any experience with management So find a way to gain that experience through your professional work or in a volunteer capacity.

Now that you know where you want your life to go and you know how far along that path you have progressed then it is simply a matter of working toward your goal to achieve that life of happiness and success you desire

2. Believe in yourself and trusting yourself :
If you wish to succeed in life you must believe in yourself and trusting yourself is one of the most important things for developing self-confidence and self-esteem. It is great to rely on the strength of others and fellow team members. It is great to rely on the strength of your parents, your mentors, your pastor and your coaches, but if you do not believe in yourself and your abilities and your strength of character and inter personal will you will not succeed in life and you might as well just live a life of mediocrity like everyone else on the planet and forget about success.

If you truly want to achieve something in your life and you have the vision and a goal and you have committed yourself and have the dedication and personal drive to see it through then you will need to believe in yourself. No one can take away your self-confidence, your self-esteem or your strength of character and will to succeed except for you.

No one without your permission can get you to believe that you are inferior in some way or that you cannot achieve something, as there is nothing in this world that is impossible and I can tell you from personal experience, achievement and kicking everyone’s butt in everything I do, that you can do anything you set your mind to. No matter what it is and no matter how much use suck at it would you start?

You see, I am a terrible writer, well I was and then I decided to do something about it and I wrote approx. 1000 articles in 20 years and now I am a decent writer and someday I will be great writer. You can do anything you put your mind to, no one can take this ability away from you and the sky is the limit if you believe in yourself. Trust yourself on this in 2010.

3. Are you a dreamer?
Do you have a desire to do something great with your life?
Do you have unique talents and gifts that you long to share with others?
If so, then take your hand right now, tap yourself on the shoulder, and shout “Tag! I’M IT!”
That’s right! You’re it! You are responsible for making those dreams happen. No one else is going to do it for you. Not your boss, your co-worker, wife, husband, father, pastor or friend. You and you alone are responsible for making your God-given dreams a reality.

Too many of us surrender our dreams to others, chance, or the direction of a passing wind. For some reason, we are trained to think that dreams just somehow happen or that they can only happen if someone takes us under their wing and guides us on to our ultimate destiny.

Yet, the Quran itself is power-packed with verses that tell us that we indeed have the power and the ability to do our dreams. It holds us completely accountable for what we have been given and it reassures us that God himself is enough. He will accomplish his dream in us if we just believe.

Self-help and success books are constantly prodding us to believe this truth. Titles like “Take Control of Your Life!”,” If It’s Going to Be, It’s Up to Me!” and “The Power of Believing” are just a few of the wonderful books on the market that support us in making our dreams a reality.

Nothing is going to happen if we do not take the initiative to make it happen. Here are 3 keys you can apply today to make your own personal dreams a reality.

1) Stop whining and start working! If you find yourself whining about the fact that your dreams are just not happening or that no one is taking you under their wing and guiding you to success – stop it! Remember, the cure for “E”motion is in the word itself. Drop the “E” and you find the answer – “motion” Motion, is always the key to dealing with emotion.

2) Believe and receive! Start believing that you are capable of making your dreams a reality. If you feel small and weak, don’t worry. Your belief should not lie in your own strength but in God’s power working in you. As you believe, you will receive direction, guidance, peace and ultimately the realization of your dreams.

3) Be dynamic and different! Realize that making a decision to do your dreams automatically puts you in a minority. Like it or not, you are different! Most people live a “settle for” life but you have chosen excellence. Therefore, you can expect to receive some flak. Being dynamic in your attitude and vision helps you rise above the norm. It is the key to keeping you “up” in a “down” world.

So take control of your life and dreams today and you will be well on your way to making all of your most passionate dreams real!

4. Important To Have Goals:
I recently had a conversation with one of my former class mate. He has been out of school for a 20 years now but isn’t satisfied with the direction his career has taken. In fact, he’s not too happy with personal life either. His voice developed more than a touch of complains as he said: “I don’t know what to do.”

So I asked him about his goals. His response was a rather slack-jawed look of surprise. “Goals?” Well at least he wasn’t whining anymore.

I asked him where he’d like to see his life in a few years. He knew the answers to those questions and quickly became animated as he discussed his desire to start his own business. We talked about what he would need to accomplish his goal and what would have to change.

When we parted ways he felt a lot better about his job because he knew that he wasn’t trapped in it. He was taking a necessary step to prepare himself for a long-term goal. He had his eye on the prize and that focus energized him.

That is the power of goals. What are your goals? There are seven reasons why you need to have goals.

~ To give direction to life
~ To make sure we are the one choosing the direction of our life — not others, not fate, not the media, etc.
~ To motivate
~ To make sure we get what we want from life
~ To save time
~ To reduce stress
~ To give a sense of accomplishment

While it can be fun to live without direction in the short-term, in the long-term human beings are wired to need a purpose and direction. Goals give a sense of direction and purpose to life.

It is often easy to let others set our direction for us. We take a job because family or friends point us in that direction and then we follow the dictates of our boss. We move in other directions because popular culture or the media tells us to do so. The simple truth is that if we do not set our own goals then we will find it too easy to follow a path set by others. This can lead to stress and unhappiness. We have a greater chance of happiness and fulfillment following our own path and pursuing our own goals.

While goals certainly give our lives direction they also provide the motivation to get us through difficult times and choices. Perhaps going to college at night while working full-time may be stressful and difficult in the short-term, but in the long run being able to pursue the professional goals we desire will make it worthwhile.

Goals also serve as the destination for what we really want out of life. For some people goals are measured in money or material goods, while for others goals are measured in time or freedom. If we do not have goals outlined that suit our unique perspective on life it is easy to become sidetracked by life and others.

5. Attitude To Success:
“A man becomes what he thinks about, most of the time.”

We all want success in life. We want success in our home life, business life, and in our relationships with others. The most important single factor that guarantees our success in every aspect of our lives is having a positive attitude. Without a positive attitude success is not possible.

You will never attract positive things into your life if all of your thoughts are negative. Just as a magnet attracts anything metal our minds attract the things we think about most. Your mind will always seek to turn the things you think about most into physical reality.

Every one of us has two different minds, the conscious and the subconscious. The conscious mind is our thinking, which uses logic, deduction, reason, and sound judgment to make its decisions. Your choices in life are made by the conscious mind.

The subconscious mind lies outside your conscious mind. It has access to data, information, and ideas outside your own experience. Your subconscious mind works 24 hours a day and it is the source of all examples of pure creativity, problem solving, and goal achievement. It is a magical part of your mind. The part of your mind where genius lies.

Our subconscious mind is not able to distinguish between positive and negative thoughts. So, if you tell yourself something often enough your subconscious will eventually come to believe it. If you repeat something often enough whether it is positive or negative it will become your reality. This is because your subconscious mind constantly strives to attract the material equivalent of your most frequent and prominent thoughts.

It is impossible for a negative mind to attract positive things. If you’re thinking about problems constantly you will find them. Is it possible to overcome negative and pessimistic thinking with positive thoughts? You bet it is! And it’s something, which can be easily learned.

It’s all a matter of conditioning. You can train your mind to think positive thoughts the same way you can learn anything else. The way to do this is to remove any negative thoughts one at a time until there is none left. And for each negative thought that you remove, you then plant a new and positive thought in its place. You then nurture those positive thoughts until there is no room for any negative thoughts to grow. Then, make a habit of stopping a negative thought any time it appears and replacing it with a positive thought.

For example, replace, “I can’t do it” with “I can do it” and you’ll find your attitude and your life will greatly improve.

Positive thoughts will lead you to financial success and it will help you find the true riches of life for yourself and your family. So whatever it is in life that you want, you must begin today to become a “positive thinker.” Once you do this future success will be unlimited.

6.Beat Negative Thinking

Are your negative thoughts holding you back from being successful? Do you believe that most things don’t go your way or even that your life seems filled with conflict and turmoil. Do you let daily events control how you feel inside? If you do, don’t worry you’re not alone. What’s missing is your positive attitude.

Most people believe that they feel the way they do because they react to the events happening around them and there is nothing they can do about it.

However, despite all that, the events themselves have no power to make you feel one way or the other. You may find it hard to believe but it’s true. The events themselves do not have any control over how you feel.

So if the things that happen in your life are not what make you feel, say, happy or sad then what is it?

Naturally you will say well when I see the drought in Kashmir earth quake affecting so many people, I’m bound to be affected. Yes of course you are, but that’s because you have learned compassion during your formative years.

Therefore the answer is YOU. You alone, not the external events, have the power to control your feelings. Let me explain more how you can develop your positive attitude:

You return from your annual holiday in Pakistan to the news that your company has been taken over and you will probably be made redundant. Unless you are very unusual, this is what usually happens. Your immediate thoughts are: I need to get my CV sorted out and start applying for a job. What if I can’t find one; how will I pay for the new car I just bought? Will they come to repossess it? You start to feel sick and wish you’d never gone on holiday in the first place.

What has started happening is your mind playing a series of negative images or ‘pictures’ caused by this sudden turn of events. But in reality nothing has happened yet, so the feelings of sickness and the worry are in response to something that hasn’t even happened!

Now if instead of dwelling on these negative events that may or may not happen you can think of something positive you could change the outcome. By being positive and focusing on a good event from your past and reliving something that makes you feel secure you instantly start to feel better, instead of letting yourself get worked up. This is the power and control that you possess to get you on the right side of difficult times. This is simply anchoring you so that you can step back and see what is really happening. You are developing your positive attitude.

Naturally, I’m not suggesting you remain oblivious to problems around you, but the fact is that you can only make rational decisions when your head is clear. Now you are thinking clearly you can devise an action plan; if you do lose your job start by updating your CV. Who do you know that can help you out? What can you say to express your skills? Where can you brush up your interview techniques? These steps are much easier when you feel good about yourself. If you don’t, it shows in your demeanor and losing your positive attitude makes finding a job much more difficult.

I said at the start that you learn how to react to events from others in your formative years and if you learn to control your negative thoughts and replace them with more positive ones, it will be much easier to learn new reactions from your experiences instead of reverting to old patterns. You can find more help at Your Positive Attitude

7. Beat Negative Thinking
Are your negative thoughts holding you back from being successful? Do you believe that most things don’t go your way or even that your life seems filled with conflict and turmoil. Do you let daily events control how you feel inside? If you do, don’t worry you’re not alone. What’s missing is your positive attitude.

Most people believe that they feel the way they do because they react to the events happening around them and there is nothing they can do about it.

However, despite all that, the events themselves have no power to make you feel one way or the other. You may find it hard to believe but it’s true. The events themselves do not have any control over how you feel.

So if the things that happen in your life are not what make you feel, say, happy or sad then what is it?

Naturally you will say well when I see the drought in Kashmir earth quake affecting so many people, I’m bound to be affected. Yes of course you are, but that’s because you have learned compassion during your formative years.

Therefore the answer is YOU. You alone, not the external events, have the power to control your feelings. Let me explain more how you can develop your positive attitude:

You return from your annual holiday in Pakistan to the news that your company has been taken over and you will probably be made redundant. Unless you are very unusual, this is what usually happens. Your immediate thoughts are: I need to get my CV sorted out and start applying for a job. What if I can’t find one; how will I pay for the new car I just bought? Will they come to repossess it? You start to feel sick and wish you’d never gone on holiday in the first place.

What has started happening is your mind playing a series of negative images or ‘pictures’ caused by this sudden turn of events. But in reality nothing has happened yet, so the feelings of sickness and the worry are in response to something that hasn’t even happened!

Now if instead of dwelling on these negative events that may or may not happen you can think of something positive you could change the outcome. By being positive and focusing on a good event from your past and reliving something that makes you feel secure you instantly start to feel better, instead of letting yourself get worked up. This is the power and control that you possess to get you on the right side of difficult times. This is simply anchoring you so that you can step back and see what is really happening. You are developing your positive attitude.

Naturally, I’m not suggesting you remain oblivious to problems around you, but the fact is that you can only make rational decisions when your head is clear. Now you are thinking clearly you can devise an action plan; if you do lose your job start by updating your CV. Who do you know that can help you out? What can you say to express your skills? Where can you brush up your interview techniques? These steps are much easier when you feel good about yourself. If you don’t, it shows in your demeanor and losing your positive attitude makes finding a job much more difficult.

I said at the start that you learn how to react to events from others in your formative years and if you learn to control your negative thoughts and replace them with more positive ones, it will be much easier to learn new reactions from your experiences instead of reverting to old patterns. You can find more help at Your Positive Attitude .

8. INSPIRATION
Your Success Strategy:
Let’s face it. Life can be difficult. It just can be. Work pressures mount, family demands become overwhelming, health suffers stress builds.

I have to admit, it happens to me and when it does, when life gets to be too much or too hard, I put up a “CLOSED for business” sign and seek out a little inspiration.

Inspiration looks good (a beautiful photograph), smells good (a bed of roses), sounds good (Viva Four Seasons) and feels good (family photographs, your favorite movie or book).

Surrounding yourself with inspiration helps you get and keep your life on track because it returns you to YOUR spirit – to your center. When you feel inspired, it’s a sign you’re touching a place deep within yourself. From this place, you can create, plan, and simply live a life that feels better. And when you feel better, everything runs a bit more smoothly, creativity increases, things get done, and you feel happier.

Inspiration is Heart Opening. Think about the last time you read an inspiring story. Did your heart feel 10 times bigger than normal? Inspiration opens your heart and when your heart is open you become more accepting of yourself and others. You feel more patient. Your general outlook improves. Connecting with your heart reduces stress.

Inspiration Inspires Greatness. Have you ever seen a beautiful painting and had the urge to stop by your nearest art supply store for a canvas and oil paints? Inspiring works of art touch within us our innate desire to create art that’s unique to us. (Art = an outward expression of your deepest joy)

Inspiration Calms and Restores Nature. Fresh air. Wide open spaces. Sunny hot beaches. Don’t you already feel more relaxed? Exactly! Mother Nature is ready and willing to share her inspired works of art with us. She’s made it highly accessible and totally free!

Inspiration Energizes and Refreshes. How did you feel watching Lance Armstrong win the Tour de France for the 7th time? Did it make you want to jump on your bike for a 2400 hundred-mile bike ride on steep mountain roads? Maybe! Did it make you want to do something greater with your life? Inspiration is powerful because it touches the part of us that knows, deep inside; we’re made for so much more.

Inspiration Spreads Joy. Inspiration makes you feel good. Just think of the last inspiring chain-email you received and passed on with a note that said, “I never do this but I had to share this with you!” When you feel good, when the joy in you comes alive, and you share your joy with others, you impact the world in a thousand positive ways.

The next time life feels difficult, put up a “CLOSED for business sign” and get out for a little inspiration. You’ll love the results.

9. Handle Your Problems
Life would be so wonderful if it weren’t for other people. Let’s face it, people will upset you. They will say things that will hurt your feeling.

And no matter how well you plan, problems and challenges will pop up. You will be stressed out. But it’s your responsibility to do something to feel better.

Here are 7 tips that can help you right away:

1) Don’t just sit there. Move! According to many psychologists, motion creates emotion. You might notice that when you are idle, it’s easier to become depressed. Your heart rate slows down, less oxygen travels to your brain, and you are slumped somewhere in a chair blocking air from reaching your lungs.

I challenge you right now, regardless of how you are feeling, to get up and walk around at a fast tempo. Maybe you might want to go to an empty room and jump up and down a little bit. It may sound silly but the results speak for themselves. Try it now for a few minutes. It works like magic.

2) Smell the roses. How do you smell the roses? How about investing some money to go on that one trip you’ve been dreaming about? Visit a country with lots of exotic places to jolt your imagination and spur your creativity. You need to detach from your daily activities and venture a little bit.

3) Get some company. If you’re like me, you have many acquaintances, but you only have a few true friends. This isn’t because I’m introverted. It is because I’m very selective about who I let enter my territory. I have worked too hard to build my house—my dream—and I won’t let anyone destroy it for me in the blink of an eye. When you’re feeling down, call your true friends and share what it is that you’re going through. Ask for their advice or input. While their advice or suggestions may be helpful, often you’ll find that simply verbalizing your problems will help you feel better.

4) Help others with their problems. It is very therapeutic when you engross yourself in helping others. You will be surprised how many people’s problems are worse than those you may be facing. You can offer others assistance in countless ways. Don’t curl up in your bed and let depression and stress takes hold of you. Get out and help somebody. There are many charitable organizations that can use your help right now.

5) Laugh a little. By now you’ve heard that laughter is a good internal medicine. It relieves tension and loosens the muscles. It causes blood to flow to the heart and brain. More importantly, laughter releases a chemical that rids the body of pains. Every day, researchers discover new benefits of laughter. Let me ask you this question: “Can you use a good dose of belly-shaking laughter every now and then?” Of course you can. What you are waiting for? Go a comedy club or rent some funny movies.

6) Visit third world countries. Nothing is more humbling than to visit a poor country and see first hand what other human beings go through just to survive. Most people who have taken such trips come back with a deep and profound sense of gratitude and appreciation. They realize how much they’ve taken for granted without ever realizing it. I encourage you to travel whenever you can afford to do so. You’re not too busy. Do it for you. Your life will never be the same.

7) Wear your knees out. If there were one sustainable remedy I could offer you when the going gets tough, it would be prayer. Many people, depending on their faith, might call it meditation. It doesn’t matter to me what you call it, as long as you have a place to run to. Mahatma Gandhi said, “Religions are crossroads converging upon the point.” Well, I don’t often discuss religion, and I don’t know what works for you; but in Islam is the way I know. However, I am sensitive enough to respect your faith. My whole point is that when everything else fails, prayer works!

10. Failure Leads to Success
At first glance, would you be able to tell the real gold from a fake one?

Just like majority of people, you probably won’t be able to tell since both have the same look, unless you have prior knowledge that one is real.

The same thing can be said of failure. In one glance, all failures might look the same because these lead to negative consequences and emotions. It is possible that hidden among these failures is one disguised as a nugget of success.

You have read in many magazines, articles, and books that failure is a part of success. Failure is often camouflaged as success and acts as a guide towards success. This article emphasizes that failure is inevitable in your trek to accomplishment. In fact, it is the critical ingredient to success.

How do you deal with this critical ingredient?

Actually, all failures have the potential to become success stories. It is just a matter of using failure to your advantage. In this case, practice makes perfect. As you encounter more failures, you will learn what works and what does not.

For each failure, you are one step closer to success. This is the reason why you must not give up easily should failure occur. Intense belief in your capabilities motivates you to continue in pursuing what you are after.

You must not be afraid of failure; think of failure as a tool for success. Use failure as a tool in digging your mine of success. “So what if I fail! I may have failed now but that doesn’t mean I am completely abandoning my success goal. More failures? Bring them on! More failures mean more lessons that can be learned.” This is the attitude you must keep in your mind and heart to keep you going for the goal.

What if your resources are all used up? What if you are going bankrupt and accumulating debts? What if your assets are turning into liabilities? This is where your determination and intense belief in yourself come to the picture. If you sincerely believe you are going to make it to the top even if you have to pass through sources of failure, go for it!

Make the most out of failures and learn from them. Try to keep track of your failures by listing them on a piece of paper. Use this list to find out the different causes of failures, and solutions you have used to overcome them.

Ask yourself: What did I do wrong? How can I do better? Asking difficult questions forces you to maximize the golden learning opportunity present in every failure.

Imagine yourself caught in the middle of a storm. What do you usually do?

When you are in the middle of a storm, you stop whatever you are doing and try to protect what you still have. You wait out the storm in a safe place and wait for the sun to shine. Amidst any turbulence, you must have the confidence that you will survive.

Failure is like a storm. It passes swiftly. It provides the opportunity for you to stop to think why, how, and where you went wrong. The solution you are looking for is the sunshine after the storm. You consolidate your resources, backtrack a little, do some adjustments, and then continue pursuing your objective.

Remember, all failures have the potential to become success stories. It is just a matter of using failure to your advantage. Failures make you wiser and may help you detect that hidden golden nugget of success.

11.Show Encouragement
I’ve never met anyone who didn’t like to be praised. Some find it harder than others to accept praise or can be embarrassed by praise but we all like to have some. Praise is something, which we can all give freely. This will make the other person feel good and you yourself will benefit from knowing that you are responsible for having had this effect. When we praise and courage others we can sometimes kick start a positive spiral of behavior in that person.

He will feel more accepted and valued He is more likely to put in effort on other occasions. He is more likely to be successful in his efforts.

We can encourage others by:

1.Appearing interested in them.

2.By saying “Well done.”

3.Saying Thank you.

4.Writing thank you letters after receiving gifts.

5.If we go to a friends for a meal, phoning later or dropping an e-mail to praise the meal and company.

6.By reciprocating favors.

7.Sometimes confiding in someone or asking for their advice can let them know that you value them and trust them.

8Being prepared to recognize when someone else needs help and offering to lend a hand.

9.Calling round or making some gesture in recognition of someone else’s loss, bad news or distress.

10.Offering genuine friendship

Remember it is also important to encourage and praise you. Do this regularly.

12. Mediocre Habits

At last, the closely guarded, little-known habits of the highly mediocre are exposed! After years of unscientific research and observation, we reveal the powerful daily habits in this article. No longer will the highly mediocre have the corner on status quo. By developing these habits, we 100% guarantee a mediocre existence.

Habit # 1: Lack vision or focus. These people wake-up every day and are thrilled at the thought half their life has passed them by. They spend more time planning a vacation than their life. Their life is an undistinguishable, continual series of reactions. There is no reason to be intentional about their life, families, or careers. Discernment and clarity are taboo. Leaving a legacy or imprint on this world is for dreamers and not for the average person.

Habit # 2: Conform to a mold. These people are most happy when they stifle their own uniqueness and individuality. They strive to be like others in what they wear (just go to any mall), how they look (find a teenager), and what they do (their sense of adventure is driving an SUV). Predictability is their daily vitamin. Coloring inside the lines keeps them safe and small.

Habit # 3: Remain busy. These people are constantly telling you how busy they are. They go, go, go continually without having any margin or space to breathe and relax. These busy people are fearful to stop and examine where all this frantic comes from. This blur of busyness is a cover for a humdrum, run-of-the-mill, ordinary existence.

Habit # 4: Fear change. These people spend all their time trying to keep things exactly as they are. They thrive on driving to work the same way, eat at the same restaurants, and do the same old, same old. Vanilla is their flavor of existence. They look for every opportunity to stifle dreams – their own and those that surround them. They love to tell you why something can’t work. Their legacy is the phrase “we’ve always done it that way.”

Habit # 5: Believe x will bring happiness. These mediocre people believe that when this happens then their life, family, or career will be great. They cling to the belief that there is always “something” out there that will make their life great, perfect, or as it “should” be. When that happens, then they will be able to live their life. True happiness, joy, and peace will follow when that happens. They are motivated to continue striving for this external event to happen because that will be the key to unlock their greatness.

The shocking truth is you can avoid developing the 6th habit, believing it will always be this way! There are countermeasures to combat the rampant pandemic of mediocrity. Turn mediocrity into a meteoric life and performance. You’ll wonder why you waited!

13. Change is as Good
How many times do you hear yourself say, “I need a vacation!” Your life is busy with routines – work, bringing the kids to all of their activities, so it’s no wonder that you feel hassled, stressed or on a running wheel that you can’t seem to get off of. Maybe your job seems boring, or your daily schedule seems endlessly tiring. You tell yourself you need a vacation, or convince yourself that you just need to get away from it all. But guess what? It’s all there when you come back, and all of that blissful feeling of well being ends in the first meeting at work, or even in the first hectic morning back in the routine.

I remember the first time I heard “A change is as good as a rest.” They weren’t wise words from my friends and family, or part of an expensive motivational seminar – I heard it on a cartoon that my children were watching. It has stayed with me ever since, and I have put it to work in my life when I have felt tired, stressed or just plain bored.

For some people, just the word “change” can be stressful. They associate it with major events, like having to get a new job, a household move or an event that requires a major effort on their part. But there are many changes that we can make that can refresh us on a daily basis, some serious and others fun. Many of the options for change are not things that we even normally consider a “change,” but they are things we can do to refresh our daily lives and maintain the balance we need.

We all need to find the basic qualities that make our lives fulfilling and meaningful. These become the elements of our lives – the fundamental components that make us whole. Recognizing these elements is not enough – the key is to find the balance of elements that reflects the importance and priorities of our lives.

14.Dealing With An Angry Person
Everyone is periodically faced with an angry person, and can be challenging to deal with. I’d like to share a few ideas in how to react to another’s anger, whether it’s a spouse, friend, or even a stranger. Some of these will also apply if you are angry yourself, which of course is something to avoid in the first place.

Listen – Let the person vent a little, and get their words and feelings out. If you interrupt them too quickly to defend yourself, it’s going to just make things worse. Wait for them to finish or for a pause. Being a good listener is an important skill in many other situations also. A good technique for listening is to ask questions. It not only helps you understand them better, but also shows them you truly care to understand.

Stay Calm – Don’t go into anger mode you, it just compounds the situation. Just remind yourself that anger is unlikely to accomplish anything good, so why do it.

Validate – Validate their anger, do not just dismiss their emotions just because you feel it’s unjustified. The fact is that they feel this way, and you will help the situation by accepting and acknowledging the way they feel. Let them know this with phrases such as “I see that you’re really upset with me and am sorry this had to happen”.

Take Responsibility – Don’t let you ego assume that you are totally without fault in their anger. You may not be fully aware of how you come across or what you did. Just accept that your actions could have been responsible, regardless of whether the actions were justified. Find things that you can freely admit you were in error about, and this may help resolve the other person’s anger.

Time-Out – If possible, take a time-out, and let the other person cool down. Trying to debate the situation immediately will often make it worse. Give it some time to settle down, and then discuss it if necessary. People will require different amounts of time to release their initial anger, so be adaptive to their needs.

Agree to Disagree – Sometimes you’re not going to ever decide that someone was right or wrong, and the debate can go on endlessly with each party trying to convince the other. In these cases, it’s best to just acknowledge that you each have different options, and leave it at that. We don’t always have to agree on things. Just “Agree to Disagree” then change the subject and move on to something else quickly. If you can find a win/win solution to the issue that’s great, however it’s not always possible.

Keep Perspective – Keep things in perspective, and ask yourself how important the topic of the argument really is in the big picture. It’s so easy to get into a huge argument over what is a trivial thing, and the debate becomes more a personal issue of proving something, which really doesn’t matter. Be willing to just let it go.

Release the Anger – If you’re holding a lot of anger yourself, find a good way to release it. What works best will be different for each of us, but some ideas include: talking a walk, play a video game, work in the garden, phone a friend, go shopping, take a bath, or anything that will take your mind off it. Time is a great healer.

Avoid Violence – Never use physical violence against another in anger, if you are doing this you should seek professional help before you hurt someone. If you are the recipient of violent anger, then you need to physically get away from that person, as quick as you can.

With anyone you spend a lot of time with, you should work together towards ending anger. Make a pact to try to avoid this emotion, which does your relationship no good. If you can both become better listeners, it will go a long ways towards reducing anger, because people will know they can count on you to listen to them. Anger will otherwise become their tool to get your attention.

15. Forgiving Yourself and Others

“All illness is caused by not forgiving.”

At some point in our lives, all of us have been wronged by another person and felt hurt, angry or resentful.

This is a natural reaction and part of being human. However, if we do not resolve or come to terms with these hurts, they drive our actions and create a negative way of life. By harboring past hurts, we have the potential to do far more harm to ourselves than anyone else can possibly do.

“All illness is caused by not forgiving.”

Forgiving others – or yourself – does not mean forgetting or condoning what happened, or giving up the values that were violated or assuming you are at fault; nor is it condemning the other person or seeking justice or compensation. Forgiveness can be viewed as foregoing the resentment or revenge when the wrongdoer’s action deserves it and giving the gifts of mercy, generosity and love when the wrongdoer does not seem to deserve them. To release the shackles of the past, we must be willing to forgive.

Forgiveness is about creating a state “for giving” – both to self and others – and excusing a mistake or an offense and letting go of the associated hurt, anger or resentment. Because forgiveness has the greatest benefit to the person doing the forgiving, it is one of the greatest gifts that you can give to yourself.

Forgiving allows us to get on with our lives and to open up our minds and hearts to new ways of seeing others, the world and ourselves. It releases energy that can be used for other, more productive thoughts and actions.

16. Give A Smile-Get A Smile
In today’s world of technology we do not have ample opportunity to get personal. Life is fast-paced and everyone seems to be in a rush. We dial the phone and we talk to machines. We spend long hours on the computer playing games, emailing one another or working with our web pages. Even in the office environment, we email the person in the cubicle 3 feet away instead of walking over to hand them a task list.

Don’t get me wrong. I love technology. I cannot imagine ever being without my computer and am guilty of spending a large part of my day working on line. The computer and Internet afford many opportunities. Now at no charge outside of my Internet connection I can communicate with persons all over the world. If screened carefully young people have a world of education available at their fingertips. I could continue to expound on the many benefits that technology has brought into our lives. However, that is not the gist of this article.

As a result of the technological age of today’s world, our personal touch with one another is decreasing. We need to take full advantage of the opportunity to be personal. Humans are becoming strangers to one another. People are in a hurry to get on with the business of living and walk past each other on the street without even a nod.

Have you wondered why there is so much clinical depression in the world today? Ask yourself why our young people are so distressed. Why so many of them attempt suicide or worse the murder of their classmates or families. Do you conclude as I do that we need more of a personal touch?

Have you taken notice to how you felt when you were standing in line at a bank and someone turned and smiled at you. Prior to that smile you were feeling very anxious, possibly tapping your foot in impatience. You weren’t very happy to be there waiting in a long line. You had things to get done and you were getting more frustrated by the minute. It was one of the mundane drudgeries we all have to go through. Then comes this smile from the person in the line next to you and suddenly you feel much better. You are compelled to smile back. You do so without giving it thought, as though it is a natural inclination to reciprocate the smile.

Think about it, don’t you feel compelled to smile back when someone smiles at you? Doesn’t if lift your mood, and bring you out of a frustrated frame of mind? But that smile does so much more than that. It makes you feel accepted and liked. Somebody cares, and shares the things you go through. It makes you part of a group, an integral part of the human race. If you do not think that our society, do research into why our young people join gangs. The kids will tell you they are seeking to belong, to be a part of something. The gang becomes an extension of the family.

There is power in the smile, you see. It’s as though that instant someone waved a wand and all the drudgery disappeared. You suddenly feel warm and responsive and the person who offered you a smile has just gone from a stranger to be wary of to a kindred spirit. Sometimes a conversation is started and now the mundane drudgery has actually become an enjoyable experience. You no longer feel frustrated and rushed and in spite of yourself and enjoying yourself. The world is now warm and fuzzy instead of cold, fearful and bitter.

I do not mean to imply that giving and receiving a smile is the solution to the world’s problems, but it is a very good place to start. We all need to feel that sense of belonging. We are after all members of the same human family. We should feel moved to embrace each other in our hearts and minds.

So go ahead and smile. I dare you. But be careful. You might find the world a friendlier place to live. You might find that people are warm and kind and appreciative. Your smile might just make their day.

17.How to Accept Criticisms and Their Role in Our Life?
Critics play a major role in shaping our lives. Critics are very-2 important for producing a constructive and great work. If there is no one who criticizes our work then we will never be able to know the shortcomings of our work. Many big leaders have given the credit of their success to their critics. More sharp and focus critic you have more will be better your work. Nobody comes in world with all the wisdom required to succeed. We learn most of the knowledge in this world. This is also the beauty of some ones work if he is able to attract few critics.

Critics are very wise people and they usually do not waste their time with ordinary people. There are different ways to take criticism of your critics. We are required to give due respect to their criticism. We are required to first analyze how solid is their criticism and what is the truth behind it. If the criticism are really having some meaning then we should give due regard to it and try to improve yourself according to it. There are also many criticisms, which have origin due to the frustrations of others. We should be very-2 careful about these criticisms.

These criticisms basically come from people who are unsuccessful in their lives and now they do not want to see you becoming successful. However if they something right then we should accept it. Due to ignorance we do lot of mistakes and therefore attract criticism out of it. We are requiring taking these criticisms positively and using them for not repeating the same mistakes. Biggest crime is to repeat the same mistakes again and again. Criticisms make us wise and also help us in reducing the chances of committing mistakes. So, always take your critics seriously.

18. Love Is The Answer
It’s all about love. It may seem trite to say, but its true. Love is where it’s.

What do you want to do in life? It goes easier with love in your heart.
Want better relationships, or a better family life? Make sure love is in your heart.
Trying to do a better job at work? Do it with love.
Trying to make a difference in anything? Start by finding love.
Is there pain in your life that needs mending? Love is what heals.
Are you lonely; still looking for that special someone? Love will find a way.

In a world of pain and anguish, of seemingly endless problems and crises, love is so often forgotten or overlooked. In times of national crisis does anyone advocate love and forgiveness? And how often do you, when faced with interpersonal conflict, remember to keep love in your heart for the person you are facing?

This, of course, is not to say that love alone will solve all problems. But it is to say that all approaches to any problem will always resolve quicker and easier and will lead toward healing when love is consciously present.

Violence does not stop violence; it only breeds more violence. Period. The scars born of violence do not go away; rather, they fester and return in kind.

Love dissipates violence. Not always immediately, but always eventually. This is why the most powerful advocates for peace are the most vocal advocates for love. We need only look at leaders like Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King, who both advocated nonviolent protest and loving the enemy, to see that armies may be conquered and systematic repression can be stopped with the use of long-term campaigns of love, kindness, and forgiveness.

Again, this is not to say that love alone is a panacea, a magic pill that cures all. It is only to say that all methods and plans for positive change will always work better when there is an undercurrent of conscious loving energy.

Love is the one thing that is universally revered as being good for us all, and yet, with tragic consequence, it is so often ignored as a technique for change. Indeed, finding and keeping love in our hearts is the only way to consistently promote and effect healing, on both a personal and a national level.

It is fear that drives us to violence, as individuals and as nations. It takes courage to look beyond that fear and to consider that forgiveness and acceptance are necessary elements in any healthy relationship, whether it’s between two people or between two cultures. Fear pushes away; love brings together.

Love is the universal element that can be used in any situation where positive change is needed. It is not the only element, but is the element that can be used anytime, anywhere.

Love is the answer.

Planning For Change
Success means more than economic gains, titles and degrees. It usually follows careful planning.

If you decide you want to change your life and have a good idea of what you want to do then that is the time to start planning how you will achieve your goal.

There are many things you need to examine and consider before you begin to make plans. The easiest and most efficient way is to put all the points on paper, not in any particular order but just as you think of them. You must decide exactly what you.

Do you want a new job? Do you want promotion in your present job? Do you want to stay in the same town? Are you prepared to move? Do you want to stay in the same Country? If not, where do you want to go? How are you going to go about making the changes you want? Decide what you want to change and then PLAN how you are going to make those changes. Let us look at some of the things we need to examine and be clear about when making our plans.

Who are YOU? To gain insights about yourself, you need to look closely at your beliefs, values and principles.

Moreover, you can also reflect on your experiences, which have shaped your skills, knowledge, strengths and weaknesses.

Are you highly motivated, generous, and service oriented, but impatient? Are you introvert or extrovert? Will your new lifestyle be appropriate if you make the changes you are considering?

Do you have alternative plans if you cannot achieve your original ambitions? The more you carry out this personal assessment the easier it will be for you to decide if you really do want to make a change.

By now you have carried out an in-depth study of your inner self. Your next decision concerns how successful you want to be. To be successful you must devote all your energy to the idea to achieve this enviable state. Do you have strong ambitions to be the CEO of a large company? Or do you just want a secure position, which will provide all your needs in life? Again the same situation arises if you want to succeed in other areas of your life. Will you have to change your attitude or ideas? Will you have to think about further education or study some subject with whom you are not familiar? You will know the answer to these questions if you have made the necessary studies outlined above. Your in depth examination should cover all aspects of your life, i.e. the physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual values you hold.

Once you have decided on your goal you can now proceed with the method with which you are going to reach it. If your ambition is to reach the higher echelons of business then concentrate on the requirements.

Research these requirements and find a mentor to monitor your progress. If your aims lie in another direction utilize the same formula, i.e. research and study your subjects and never be afraid to ask for advice and help. If you are tenacious and dedicated enough you will realize your ambitions. Use contacts, friends and acquaintances. Whatever your objective, you will certainly, at some stage need help from others so cultivate friends and contacts.

If you carry out these basic principles you will be able to make changes in your life style, succeed in your goals and achieve your ambitions. One vital point to remember is Plans Can Always Be Changed. Circumstances may arise where it is necessary to change direction or ambition. If that happens, accept the fact, consider the situation and renew your plans and objectives.